92nd birthday

Happy 92nd Birthday Grandma, I love you so much.  Even if you don’t remember it’s your birthday, we always will.

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Big Blow

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Yummy

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There is no question that good food makes Grandma happy.

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How cute she is!

Her wish is to be with her kitty Mia of course, which is our goal right now.  Mia is missing her terribly too.  These two are an in-love codependent couple who need to be brought together again!

 

 

 

 

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So you think

It is so sad to watch a loved one who is aging and ill.  I am watching a beautiful intelligent woman suffering with dementia make absolutely no sense.  Someone who took pride in her appearance and loved the finer things in life have no ability to brush her own teeth or use the bathroom independently because of a stroke.  It is so heartbreaking to watch people- but especially my own beautiful grandmother- suffer with these illnesses and diseases and deteriorate right before my eyes.

Grandma in her home in the 70s

Grandma working in the Estee Lauder Department

This morning for instance my Grandmother called me from the rehab center and said she wanted to go back to the other hotel.  She proceeded to tell me that she checked herself into this new hotel today but didn’t like it and wanted to go back to the other hotel.  When I tried to explain to her that she was in the rehab center because she had a stroke she told me that I was crazy and her stroke was old news.

I shortly after went to visit her with my husband and she wanted us to “break her out of the hospital”.  She said she wanted me to sneak her out without paying the bill.  LOL.  Where does this come from?  She was giving us details of stories that were very vivid in her mind.

After we left we received regular phone calls from her.  She called my husband saying she needed money to pay her hotel bill.  Then she called me and told me she was at the spa but didn’t have cash on her to tip the workers.  Later she called my husband again saying that when they went to look for apartments earlier that day that they had left her cat Mia in one of the apartment buildings.  Then she called me to make sure that my husband went back to the apartments to find her cat.

She was confused all day with stories that made no sense.  The stories changed hourly but she believed them completely.  Dare you try and explain the truth to her she becomes upset, agitated, and angry.

The stories sometimes can bring a smile because they have cute details that you can figure out where they stem from.  Other times the stories make zero sense!  On some days you can speak with her rationally and she totally gets it, other days she thinks you are crazy and laughs at you, and other days she becomes furious saying awful things.  You never know what is coming!

My grandmother constantly feels scared, confused, angry, alone.  Moments where she is comfortable or content are rare right now. We are hoping that when she is out of the rehab this will be better.

Tonight our personal aide is with my grandmother.  Thank God for our personal aides!  Without them I don’t know what we would do. They give us moments of a break and offer fresh energy for the situation.  If you are a caretaker you must have help!!!!   Enlist family and friends as available and hire helpers when you can- there is no way to do this alone.

The rehab gave Grandma a Xanax early, before her normal sleep time to calm her down.  It helps relax her, but how sad it is.  It makes her very calm but very lethargic.  Its better then her falling again though.  She is covered in bruises:(

Examples of bruises since in rehab

bruises in rehab

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bruises in rehab

bruises in rehab

During her more cognitive moments, she makes comments like “I am really out of it”, “I think I’m going crazy”.  She knocks on her head and says “I might be going senile”.  She will also say, “I think my memory isn’t the best” or “I’m loosing a bit of my memory”.

She always tells me how happy she is to see me when I walk in the door.  She always wants a hug and a kiss and tells me how much she loves me.  She makes me promise to come back or not to be gone for too long.  As much as she is not mentally up to par she has moments of clarity and moments of total sweetness.  She talks about me to the nurses and is always trying to reach me.  Yesterday she told me “we have been through a lot together and I know I can always count on you”.  AWE:)

Grandma has been using her Claris Companion and completing her regular surveys that I have set up most hours.  This gives me a window of what’s happening in that hospital room when I am not there.  I have set up additional wellness survey’s now too which ask a series of health related questions to give me a better idea to her physical and mental well being at that moment.  I have also set up check in points, which is literally a beep that says press the check in button to let your family know you are ok.  These are just extra little things to let me know that she is alert. These things certainly don’t fix the problem but they do help.  When she doesn’t check in or complete a scheduled survey, I am sent a notification so I know that I can call her or the rehab unit.

We are planning to bring her home with us when she is released and I admit, I am nervous. Each bad day makes me more nervous. She is very needy and can be mean at times.  The dementia has completely worsened since the stroke and now she is bed ridden. So much has changed so quickly.  I am praying that with the equipment we used when she was living in her house (Iris system with CARE feature), with home health aides, with new equipment for lifting and moving (hospital bed, stand to lift, etc.), and with the new systems we are putting in place for communication (Claris and more to come) that all will work out.  I just can’t imagine putting her in a nursing home.

Grandma turns 92 in 3 days!  Nursing homes will always be there as a last resort, but in the meantime I will exhaust every idea and energy in trying to make her life as comfortable as I can. I believe that dementia and Alzheimer’s are some of the most horrific diseases. I can’t even imagine what it must feel like to her or others suffering with these diseases.  To flip from happy and content to scared to death in seconds over and over again– horrible!

If you know someone who is taking care of their loved one, for whatever condition and whatever age, offer to lend a hand.  Once a month for a few hours you can make a serious difference and be a hero for these people while doing a good deed that you can feel proud of.  And if your a mommy or a daddy, you are teaching your own children a great lesson!

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Distortion

Grandma’s dementia is full blown today. She has fallen twice because she has forgotten she can not walk and continues to try and get out of bed. She is talking total nonsense. She broke out in hysterical laughter over a comment I made, which was not funny at all. This has gone on all day.  They took her temp and vitals and all was fine. They thought she may have a UTI, which could have explained the strange behavior, but they checked and she doesn’t.

Telling me how classy I look.  Lol.

Telling me how classy I look. Lol.

She is repeating herself every minute and making very strange comments. She is complaining of an odd feeling in her head. She looks feverish but does not have a fever. She has been quite argumentative and cursing at the staff. Today has been a very off day!

She wants her cat Mia and I can’t wait until she can get out of here and be with her cat. That’s my hope to bring her some peace and comfort.

She keeps saying “this has been a very strange happening”. When I ask her to explain, she tells me how she likes my French manicure. The whole conversation goes on and on and makes no sense and then starts all over again.

Watching her like this is heartbreaking. She is unable to walk, care for herself, eat on her own, or even think rationally. She flips from confused to scared to angry. The stroke paralysis is sad but the dementia is absolutely the worst.

Reading her reminder letters

Reading her reminder letters

She is always hugging the bear I gave her, although I’m not sure she realizes it. She uses her good arm to move the paralyzed arm out of the way.  She constantly looks at the letters I have on the table that she can reach. She reads them over and over again. She looks at the pictures on her senior tablet and answers the survey questions. Today a question asked how she was feeling and she checked “worse”.  She absolutely knew what she was checking and wanted me to hurry up and get here.

My husband and I are busy making changes in our life to adapt to taking grandma out of rehab.  Since she can’t live independently and we can’t afford 24/7 home care at her house, and we want to use a nursing home as a last resort option only, we are planning to bring grandma to our home when she is released.  We both work full time but think with the use of home aides and the systems we had in place at her house we will be able to manage it.   The goal is to reunite her with Mia.

Grandmas version off moving her left arm is to pick it up with her right hand.

Grandmas version of moving her left arm is to pick it up with her right hand.

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Senior Tablets

Well it’s been over an hour since we pressed the nurses light and no one has come in. Very glad it is not an emergency!  So frustrating…..!

I came in today and my grandmother was using her senior tablet. We are using the Claris Companion for seniors. It is a Samsung galaxy two tablet that has been designed for senior specific use. It is packaged in a nice wood case that stays plugged in. It is attractive and fairly simple for any senior to use. All functions have the ability to be turned on or off.  I will be comparing it to other senior tablets and laptops in the future.

Pointing to her grandson

Pointing to her grandson

For the time being we have many of the Claris features turned off. I am learning the system and setting up many of the features as not each one is appropriate for our use.  It is customizable which is nice.

My grandmother loves to watch the changing pictures of her family and past.  I think we have about 200 now. I even added more today (from another location) and they immediately became available for her viewing. They definitely help her memory and keep her entertained. The game of name that picture never becomes old.

Many have reported that grandma has less anxiety since the Claris came into her room. They say she pushes the call button less and is engaged in something.   For those reasons alone it is well worth purchasing it.  But to add, for me the caregiver, it gives some peace of mind.  Anything that can offer me a little peace of mind, I appreciate a lot. It’s not a lifesaver but it’s a little tidbit of peace.

I have also set up what’s called “surveys” for her. A survey will ask a yes, no, or maybe question that you write, to be displayed at your chosen time. Some question examples are- Do you you feel safe? Are you comfortable? Is Mia your kitty cat? Do you have purple hair? Are your legs sore today?

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Pointing to a bird

I program one question every two hours. Great tool for dementia, Alzheimer’s or memory loss. The questions can be scheduled for anytime of the day and repeated daily. After your loved one completes the survey it texts or emails you. The question makes a noise so you know it’s on the screen and it’s very clearly and largely written. The buttons are colorful, huge and easy to read. A simple press of a finger on the touch screen answers the question. I like it because it lets me know she is alert and helps me keep track of her well-being and daily routine. If she doesn’t respond within a set amount of time it will notify me of that too. You choose when it alerts you. This feature like all others can be set on or off. I like and use this feature.

Answering the Survey

There is also a “call me” feature which I have disabled at the moment. For most users it would be very effective but we have some issues with it. The call me buttons are big and easy to read and with a simple press of a finger on the touch screen the user can ask the caregivers/family (easily set up in the system) to call them.

We have several issues with this feature unfortunately. Because my grandmother has dementia she would forget she had pressed the button one minute before and was literally requesting me to call her every five minutes. It was very funny at first but quickly became frustrating. The second issue is that the big CALL ME button is displayed over the bottom of your revolving pictures and my grandmother many times believed she was calling the person who was showing up on the picture. The third issue is that it covers up the bottom part of your displayed pictures.

The “call me” feature should be simple but for some users will be confusing. If your loved one has an issue with it, you can turn this feature off. I would suggest they revamp this feature to make it more user friendly and overall effective.

The Claris Companion for seniors costs $550-$650 plus a monthly fee of $19-$49. I think the Claris would be a benefit to many seniors and others with disabilities.  We will be continuing to use the Claris and exploring its other features.

Grandma as a young mother

Grandma as a young mother

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Rehab Blues

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Grandma getting her nails done a few months ago, before the stroke.

While at rehab this week…..

One day this week I arrived at the rehab where my grandmother is staying. She said, “I am wet” (referring to she had wet herself). I said, “don’t worry, I will change you”. She said, “I’m really wet” and I replied ” it’s ok grandma I got it” and she said again, “no, I am soaked”.

I lifted the blanket and saw that in the bed was a pool of urine. She had urine up to her waist and down to her feet. I quickly realized that whoever had changed her last did not put a pad/diaper on her. So, throughout the day she was just sitting in her own urine.

Then one morning this week a nurse came in and took her blood pressure and heart rate. Her blood pressure was 95/36 and her heart rate was low. Thankfully I had a personal paid companion there at the time who contacted me right away. I asked the companion to ask her if she was hungry and she replied that she was. So I quickly drove over to see her, stopping at a fast food place and getting her a breakfast of scrambled eggs pancakes and sausage. I arrived and I noticed she was a little pale and very sleepy. I sat her up, she said she was hungry, so I gave her the breakfast and orange juice and she ate all of it.

I don’t know why her blood pressure and heart rate was so low. I know that they never called to tell me and no one ever came to see me about it. I do know that she was hungry and that she pretty much refuses to eat the food there, lol. Wouldn’t it be nice when they see if she doesn’t eat her tray that they offer her something else? Or call to let me know and I will happily bring something over? After she ate, all her vitals became normal again. Then shortly after she pretty much went back to sleep.

Last night the CNA we personally pay to sit with my grandmother two hours each evening in the rehab arrived and Grandma was slid down in the bed (again). The bed is sitting up but her head is in the flat part with feet hanging over the edge.

Happy moment at rehab! A visit from her kitty cat who misses grandma just as much as she misses her.

I can be there four+ hours at a time and not one person will walk in the room to check on her. I don’t understand that. People will push their call lights and it can be hours before someone comes in. The best chance of getting someone quickly is going to the front nurses station and getting someone. But of course a patient or resident cannot do that.  When my grandmother needs helps, like most people there she needs it right away.  One CNA for twelve patients is just not enough, not matter how good or well intentioned they are,

Advice for the day- if your loved one is in a facility seek support from any relative or friend you have and hire companions and cna’s as you are able. Have them come in shifts during the hours your loved one is awake (so if they sleep through the night you can skip those hours), so they are never alone more then a few hours at a time.
The shifts can be short, 2-3 hours at a time, with 2 hour breaks in between.  In this example, we are hopjng that in the 2 hours that you don’t have an advocate with your loved one that they are left in a stable  resting position.   It is very important that your sitters understand your expectations, are aware of common situations, and know how to contact you.  I like our sitters to oversee meal times.

Example schedule while in a facility.

8-10 sitter
10-12
12-2 sitter
2-4
4-6 sitter
6-8
8-10 sitter until asleep for the night

I notice for sure during the day it is best for my grandmother not to be unattended (with a personal aide) for more then 2 hours. Four hours always has a concern or issue! We are constantly changing her schedule as they alter therapy hours and right now as a family member is here to help. For us, at this point, someone is one on one wit her typically about 8-10 hours per day.

The purpose of this companion/sitter is to keep the facility on their toes, be a voice for your loved one, give one on one attention and companionship to your loved one, notify you of emergencies or concerns, and assist as they are able by fixing the problem or getting a facility employee. It breaks up the time so you are not solely responsible for every hour or every shift.

Make it known to your friends and family you need help! Maybe a friend will volunteer to take a shift/s per week. Maybe some family members will share the responsibility. Maybe those family members who can’t contribute their time will help pitch in to pay for paid companions,sitters,aides.

People can’t read minds, so if you need people you must make it known. It’s hard to ask people for help, but if you don’t, you will have to do it alone, which is impossible unless you don’t work, don’t have kids and have lots of extra money. I will tell you as I have learned, you will find out quickly who you can and can’t count on. I am completely shocked and dismayed at how some family are immediately “too broke, too busy, too lazy, too far away” too…too……too…full of excuses! Family who normally call won’t and those who have money are broke and those who have time are all of a sudden busy and committed for months. Prepare yourself for the disappointment in advance and hug and love those who unselfishly help and support you in your endeavors to take care of your loved one. Anyone believing that a facility makes things easier for the caretaker hasn’t experienced it yet. There are pros and cons in each situation.

My grandmother keeps asking when she is leaving, will I take her home now, and stating she wants her kitty, and wants to go!  Sometimes her voice is loud but the last few days it gets softer and softer.  Rehab has helped with her facial muscles which is great, but she won’t walk or stand again and her arm is completely paralyzed.  Right now we are working on figuring out the next step.

If you have any related experiences, questions, or comments I’d love to hear them.

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Turn of events

After only 5 months of living in her new home, my Grandmother had a stroke which has left her paralyzed on her left side.  She is unable to get out of bed on her own, walk, sit, eat……  She is bed bound with the exception of being lifted and placed in a wheel chair.   She is temporarily in a therapy facility in hopes to get her strength up and have some improvement.

Where to start!!!!

The therapy facility is one with a good reputation.  It is close and convenient.  But like all “facilities” it does not provide the same love and care as a loved one or the comfort and well-being as being at home.

The care there……ugh….so/so.  Its clean and people are nice.  They all mean well and that is good.  The admin is very nice and professional.  The therapists are all doing a good job and the 3 hours of therapy she is receiving each day is much needed.  However, they are way understaffed with their CNA’s.  This causes many issues.  So many issues, I really don’t like my Grandmother there without a personal aide or advocate.  Since the CNA’s are really the primary caretakers in a nursing, assisted living or therapy facility, a shortage in them causes great concern.  I am there as much as I can be (I visit everyday), but as a person with a full time job, I do have limitations.   I have people go in 2 hour increments 2-3x a day, that way she is not left alone for too long of periods.  I would suggest if you are in this position with a loved one to do a similar thing.  If you are fortunate enough to have friends or family that will help you out, lean on them. If not, find CNA’s or sitters for hire.   If anyone is willing to donate/work some shifts during the week you will feel much more comfortable in your decision to have your loved one in a facility whether it be temporarily or long term.   With family and professionals around, the facility is more on their toes and your loved one is much better taken care of (by them and you).  The help doesn’t need to be 24/7 but shouldn’t leave your loved one alone for more then a few hours at a time when they are awake.

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Grandma in someone else’s shirt, no bra, and uncomfortable sliding down in bed at the therapy facility.

Since my grandmother has dementia, she can not remember she is paralyzed and tries to get up- while she was left unattended in a wheel chair tried to get up and fell.  She cut her leg and hurt herself.  The dementia means she doesn’t remember where she is and gets confused.  She doesn’t always remember how to push the nurse button and ask for help. Because of the stroke she is weak.  She can not feed herself unless it is (one handed) finger food. The CNA’s drop off her food tray off while she is in a laying position and lay it on her tray, yet she cant remember how to lift the bed.  She can’t cut the food or feed herself or even hold the large cups on her own.  Sometimes the tray isn’t reachable.  I am totally afraid to not be there (or have someone there) during food time!  I bring her food in instead– things I know she CAN eat and LIKES to eat.  I set it up for her and make sure she eats.  When she likes the food, she eats well.  They think she never eats, but the reality is she doesn’t like their food and its too hard for her to eat on her own.  She will one handed fist the food I bring to her (lol).

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Grandma eating a half of a McDonald’s hamburger. Unhealthy, yes….but so happy.

After asking (begging) her children who live out of state to come and help me with their mother, one of them decided to come.  She is here temporarily and helping out (totally appreciate that).  I can not express in words the feelings I have towards her children.  I know every family has selfish people- but it never ceases to amaze me.  They actually find every excuse possible to NOT participate in actions or financial obligations to support and better the quality of life of their own mother.  It has caused big family stress and break up.

I just bought my grandmother a computer made for the elderly with dementia so I can stay in touch with her when I am not there.  I need more time to give an adequate review since its only been two days-so that will come soon.  Some features I like, others need improvement.  Anything that helps better my grandmothers quality of life is worth trying!!!

The one feature I can review and I know that she loves is the picture changing feature.  Its similar to those picture frames you upload your pictures into and it rotates through them. The difference is I can upload from my computer at any location and it places on the computer tablet she has at her location.  I can add, change, or delete pictures at anytime. This is truly great as it helps her memory and gives her something to focus on.  When I am with her I make it a game and have her tell me who is in each picture and/or what it is a picture of.  I included about 150 pictures so far ranging from her life.  She loves watching them!  The dementia makes each time a new time so its always exciting for her.  I also included images that say things like “I love my Grandmother”and “I love you everyday”.  She always smiles at these:)

I have also placed letters on her bed, table, and tray that tell her where she is and all the details she needs to know.  If she gets scared or lonely she reads them.  The staff there will read them to her too or remind her to read them.  Each times she reads “Grandma you are in a rehab facility because you had a stroke…..” she says, “I had a stroke?”.  Sometimes she even argues that she did not, lol, which is easily confirmed when you ask her to raise her left arm.  The letters are very helpful.  I printed out a few pictures and placed them in the room with some other items from home, but theft is an issue so you need to be careful.  I tried to bring some familiarity into the sterile white walled room but honestly since she cant move much, I really don’t know that she is noticing the few things there. For someone who is more aware or mobile I would go all out making the room comfortable and familiar.

Right now I am trying to make my grandmother as comfortable as possible, push the frustration towards some of my family out of my head, and consider long term options that are in my Grandmothers best interest.  Some of her children want whatever doesn’t inconvenience them and is free.  It is very interesting how different we all think and what our priorities are.  Like parenting, being a caretaker for someone you love means your priorities come second.  Sucks sometimes, yes that is true, but I believe very much that our own children learn from what they see and that God will use all the bad for good.

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Me and my beautiful grandmother, 1970

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Getting Things Ready for Grandma

There is nothing simple about being a caregiver. It’s a job we do because we love someone so much and someone has to step up and do it.  It’s very hard work and sometimes physically and emotionally exhausting.  Many times you feel unsupported and alone in this position.  You will be surprised to find out who you can count on (and who you can’t)!

This blog will serve as a resource to caregivers who have taken on the wonderful and beautiful responsibility-and burden- of providing care to their loved one.  You will follow my experiences, by trial and error, in comedy and tragedy.

I will discuss and review products truthfully that I am actually using and provide resources to help you provide quality care to your loved one whether they live in your home, in their own home or are in a senior facility.  I will also provide information regarding rules and laws that affect seniors.  I will submit my opinions and vents regarding senior care, assisted living facilities, and nursing homes.  I will be honest and factual based on my experiences. If you don’t agree with me, it’s ok. I’m not out to make enemies but I am definitely out to help our population that needs an advocate.  If my experiences can help one person, I’ve done something to sleep well at night.

As a caregiver of my Grandmother for over ten years I have learned to adapt, think quickly, research and develop ideas and equipment to help ease the work and responsibility that comes with this “job”.

My grandmother is 91 years old.  She is a former NYC Roxyette who worked at the Roxy theater back in the day.  She performed in the USO and was quite the looker.  She had a pretty exciting and colorful life in her younger years.  She had three children and a few grandchildren.  She practically raised me and spared me from the poverty and struggles that followed my mother.

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In the last ten years she has had a few stokes and developed dementia.  She has no short term memory.  Her long term memory is affected but still in tact.  She gets confused with too much change and anxious quickly especially when out of her house or away from her cat.  When the dementia worsened and it became unsafe to leave her home alone she moved into assisted living. I wish I knew then what I know now.  Those experiences, throughout six years and three facilities was extremely disappointing. With staffing issues and heavy turn over it was rare that quality care was received. Stolen items, lack of personal hygiene, dirty rooms, and many broken promises led us to live with day to day worry and guilt about my grandmothers safety and the care she was receiving in a senior facility.

I grew increasingly upset about the assisted living care she was receiving every time I visited, which was very often.  We changed facilities a few times and nothing ever really improved.  It was the same thing in a different building.

In 2013 I came across an affordable small house in a development a few miles from where we live. Somehow I wanted to find a way to make this work for my grandmother.  I wanted to do everything I could to improve the quality of her life. I was going to attempt it, with the support and help of my husband.  If it wasn’t an improvement she could return to assisted living.  I felt like we had nothing to lose.

We excitedly purchased the house and began working on it.  We decorated the house in my grandmothers taste doing everything we could to make the house familiar and comfortable.   We took every item from her life that she still had, which after six years of assisted living was not much, and placed it in the house. We hung family pictures or her old artwork in every room.  We even decorated with furniture that resembled items from her past. We customized the house for her needs and disabilities (which we will get much more into). So opposite the way things are normally done, we took her out of assisted living to move to independent living in her own house.

My husband and I operate a private school that has a special needs program and are very familiar with catering to differences and disabilities.  Being in education, finances are limited.  We needed to make a customized set up specifically for our Grandmother that was affordable and manageable.

With new technology and life experience and the disappointment of the assisted living experience we felt this change could only be an improvement for her overall quality of life.  We were absolutely correct and could not be happier we made this decision.  Regardless if this situation lasts for many years or is only temporary, we know it’s an improvement and we are thankful each day she is able to live a little more comfortably.

With all sorts of senior proofing and special needs tricks and an affordable home automation system with surveillance cameras and motion detectors we have customized an affordable option to help us provide care for her. Care that we control. Care that we can update, change, increase as we want.  I will be giving details and descriptions of each item, tool, trick in future posts.

Grandma has been residing in her new home,  with her cat for five months. She has no idea what State she is in and believes it is our house and we live in the guest room (dementia) but she is so much happier and more comfortable.  She gets out of bed daily (which she did not at the assisted living facilities except to eat) and watches tv, looks out the windows, and moves around the house. We are very involved and visit her almost daily.  We have several companions and CNAs who come in daily for specific tasks.  We have figured out a schedule and routine that is working  for her to keep her safely in her own home with her cat (her life line).  She is cleaner, eating much better, and has a better level of quality companionship.

Unfortunately, she recently had another (serious) stroke which has her partially paralyzed. She is unable to walk or sit up independently.  Her left arm is completely paralyzed.  She is currently in rehab doing therapy. Once she is a little stronger she will return home.

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Although she cant remember what the house looks like or any details about it she continues to repeat she wants to go home.  She knows the feeling, the comfort, she has at home.  So, In the meantime we are making changes and updates in the house for her increased disability.

We are realistic.  We know Grandma turns 92 next month.  We want whatever time she has left to be comfortable and as pleasant as possible.  We know that if we are unable to make things work in her house a nursing home is always an option.  Its a last resort but an option.  We know when its time for her to go with God, the ideal time would be in her house with her cat (and us) by her side.

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In the hospital, saying “hi”.

Providing care for another person is a full time emotional job.  Every person and family has to assess what they can do financially, what they are willing to give up,  how much time they can dedicate,  and who they can rely on. Whether your loved one is in their own home, at home with you, or in a senior facility there are products and resources that can help improve the care they receive.   When you know your options  it helps you make better decisions.   Whether you are naturally a caretaker personality or a provider out of necessity only,  you have stepped up as the responsible and selfless few who have chosen to respect and dignify the people you love. We are respecting and loving our elderly family members and role modeling to our children.   The world needs more people like that!

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